Say Yes

In order for our kids to trust us, we need to fill their trust bank. One way to do that is to hear them when they are expressing a need. We don’t think about how often we say no until we are paying attention to it. Let’s take a look at why say yes…

1. It builds trust with your kids

2. Your kids feel seen by you 

3. They know their voice is heard by you

4. Your kids will feel valued by you!

Before you say no, stop yourself and try to find a way to say YES! Here are some easy ways to say yes…

1. Give your child a healthy snack when they say they are hungry (even 10 minutes before dinner)

2. If your child takes a bite of their meal and ask for an alternative, give them PBJ!

3. Compromise with your kids so they feel heard and know you’re willing to share power

4. Give your kids choices so they can make the decision for themselves

Remember, it doesn’t have to be an exact “yes” but it can be a “yes, later” or “yes, but first”. Before you say no, stop and ask yourself whether the no is to make things more convenient for you, or because your child really needs a no. Try to say YES just few more times a day and it will start to become a habit. Build that trust!