Did you know that we play a large role in how our kids view relationship? As they grow and develop their own sense of self and find themselves seeking relationship with others, what they saw modeled for them is the basis for what they view as “normal”. This is not just in how they see their parents in relationship, but also how we are in relationship with them. Is there mutual respect? Do we honor their opinion? Do they feel seen and heard? Do they feel safe expressing their emotions? Have they seen rupture and repair normalized?

It starts with us. We cannot give our kids what we don’t have. If we don’t have the ability to regulate our body in the midst of stress, how can we model that for our kids? If we are not caring for our nervous system and moving towards a place of healing and wholeness, how can we lead our kids down that road? If we do not model mutual respect for our kids, how will they know that this is part of a healthy relationship?

No one is perfect. Normalize repair with your kids so that they learn that this is all part of healthy relationships.

Let’s explore why people spank and discover if the reasons are actually what’s best for kids.

Sometimes there is more going on with our kids than we know. Sometimes it takes us asking for help from more than just the pediatrician. Parenting is hard. It’s okay to ask for help!

Sharing power with our kids not only helps them in the moment, but also carries over into their adult relationships and how they parent their own children. Stop generational trauma in it’s tracks!

Leave the old school way of thinking in the past! We cannot spoil our babies and the more we meet their needs, the more they learn to trust us. Give your baby voice!

Although there is no perfect parent, we can be healthy parents using these three components. Our own emotional health is always first priority, but if we are in a good space and understand our triggers, then we can start working on the three components of healthy parenting.

Let’s talk about understanding parenting styles. Not many know the four parenting styles, let alone what their parenting style is. So why do we care?

We all make mistakes. Sometimes it can be easy to fall into the social media trap of only putting our best out there to the world. Or to present as if we have it all together but really we are struggling. We have weak moments and raise our voice (aka yell). We have struggles that keep us from being our best selves. But did you know that rupture and repair actually helps our kids learn how to stay connected through tough moments?

In order for our kids to trust us, we need to fill their trust bank. One way to do that is to hear them when they are expressing a need. We don’t think about how often we say no until we are paying attention to it. Let’s take a look at why say yes…